I grew up inside of a kind of bubble, the kind I think most of us grow up in. The kind of bubble where tough, strong, or resilient weren’t really needed in day-to-day life.
Oh, don’t get me wrong. Life was better if you were all of those things, but the worst you got if you weren’t was some teasing, a bit of being pushed around, etc. It wasn’t the end of the world. It sucked and it shouldn’t be tolerated, but it wasn’t a life-or-death struggle either.
Today, we’re so soft that people need to be protected from mean words and bad thoughts.
Maybe it’s time we start working to forge a much better world.
First, I’d like to apologize for this being a little late. Yesterday afternoon, my town was slammed by yet another nasty storm. This one had a particularly deadly tornado attached to it. Then, this morning, we lost power, possibly related to the storm, and we just got it back not all that long ago.
Now, while the storm was bad, it didn’t take power or cable out for a good bit yesterday, and I got to at least experience a bit of joy after the bad.
I am, of course, referring to the NFC Championship game where my beloved Atlanta Falcons stomped the Green Bay Packers.
For us, it was a banner day, but I was particularly struck by the sheer manhood displayed by Falcons wide receiver Julio Jones.
I’ve been guilty of present masculinity as rather one dimensional as of late, and that’s not good. So far, it’s hard to tell whether I’m talking about men in most of my posts, or the Terminator. I get that.
Today, I’m going to balance that a bit by talking about what men aren’t.
Every day, you’ll see guys kidding one another about turning in their “man card.” They’ll say real men do this, or real men do that. As a result, guys who are shunning every aspect of masculinity possible are also declaring what real men do. Honestly, it’s confusing.
My “day job” is to write politics, so you can imagine I’ve been pretty busy for the last couple of days. When I wasn’t writing, I was reading and watching politics to get a firm grasp on just what happened.
While much of the so-called “manosphere” was probably ecstatic about a Donald Trump win, I have to admit that I didn’t vote for him. No, I didn’t vote for Clinton either. I voted for Gary Johnson, who despite doing everything he could to the contrary, was the least offensive candidate on the ticket for me.
However, Donald Trump did win, and he won rather convincingly via the electoral college. Yes, a lot of people are all butthurt over that fact, but I’m not one. I’ve been enjoying a fair helping of schadenfreud.
I get that not everyone understands masculinity. I really do. The media has bombarded us with this image of how traditional masculinity is oh-so-wrong and they’ve offered nothing to counterbalance it. They’ve never shown any positive that could be attributed to traditional masculinity at all.
It’s easy to see why someone can be confused.
Take Mike Reynolds, a blogger at Huffington Post and now a t-shirt designer. He’s offered up a line of t-shirts that ever FIM should line up and snag, but actual men will probably pass on.
Along the way, he offers his insights into masculinity, and they’re hilarious, so I decided to fisk the crap out of them.
Have you ever heard the term “toxic masculinity” used? I have. More than once, actually. It’s usually used to describe traditionally masculine virtues since feminists and FIMs see such virtues as heralds of the anti-christ or something.
Universities across the nation are taking steps to actively purge male students of what’s been labeled “toxic masculinity.”
Examples abound of campuses hosting training sessions, group meetings, lectures and other programs to effectively cleanse what many campus leaders and left-leaning scholars contend is an unhealthy masculinity in young men today.