While researching another post for this site, I came across something that bugged me. It wasn’t the first time I’d seen it, mind you, but that didn’t change anything.
I was looking into any studies done to describe why men rag one another so hard when we interact. While reading one page, however, someone commented that men are essentially built for conflict and competition, while women are built around the idea of cooperation.
My “day job” is to write politics, so you can imagine I’ve been pretty busy for the last couple of days. When I wasn’t writing, I was reading and watching politics to get a firm grasp on just what happened.
While much of the so-called “manosphere” was probably ecstatic about a Donald Trump win, I have to admit that I didn’t vote for him. No, I didn’t vote for Clinton either. I voted for Gary Johnson, who despite doing everything he could to the contrary, was the least offensive candidate on the ticket for me.
However, Donald Trump did win, and he won rather convincingly via the electoral college. Yes, a lot of people are all butthurt over that fact, but I’m not one. I’ve been enjoying a fair helping of schadenfreud.
Yesterday, after writing a pretty long fisk of the Huffington Post story, something about it stuck in my craw. Something that the subject of the piece, Mike Reynolds, said that really bugged me. Well, bugged me more than the bulk of what he said, at least.
“We do science projects together, we make up bedtime stories about giants who play hopscotch, and we talk our bodies, how they are changing, and about anything they’d like to ask me,” he said, adding, “I think this is a relationship a lot of dads have with their daughters but they’re told they should be protecting their daughters with their physical strength instead of building trusting relationships with them.”
As I pointed out yesterday, the two aren’t mutually exclusive. I tell my daughter bedtime stories and do homework together, but I also believe in protecting her as well.
Reynolds also has a t-shirt design that says “Strength has no gender.”
I get that not everyone understands masculinity. I really do. The media has bombarded us with this image of how traditional masculinity is oh-so-wrong and they’ve offered nothing to counterbalance it. They’ve never shown any positive that could be attributed to traditional masculinity at all.
It’s easy to see why someone can be confused.
Take Mike Reynolds, a blogger at Huffington Post and now a t-shirt designer. He’s offered up a line of t-shirts that ever FIM should line up and snag, but actual men will probably pass on.
Along the way, he offers his insights into masculinity, and they’re hilarious, so I decided to fisk the crap out of them.
From time to time, I encounter a lot of images with supposedly pithy quotes. Oddly enough, while many aren’t really accurate to what the individual “quoted” supposedly said, all are enlightening. They show us a glimpse into the mind of the person sharing the quote in the first place.
Also from time to time, I see some that cause me to roll my eyes in annoyance, kind of like this one:
This, of course, serves to remind folks that women can do anything and claiming otherwise makes you a hateful misogynist despite any arguments you make.
The irony here is that, on just the surface, this argument isn’t wholly incorrect. Traditional gender roles aren’t “biologically locked,” and were constructed by early societies until they became the tradition.
There are bad people in this world. On any day, in almost any community, you can open up your local newspaper’s website and see just how many bad people there are.
Additionally, you may be a bad mofo walking around, but unless you’re the internet version of Chuck Norris, there’s alway someone badder than you are…and that doesn’t even touch on the possibility of there being more of them than you.
Have you ever heard the term “toxic masculinity” used? I have. More than once, actually. It’s usually used to describe traditionally masculine virtues since feminists and FIMs see such virtues as heralds of the anti-christ or something.
Universities across the nation are taking steps to actively purge male students of what’s been labeled “toxic masculinity.”
Examples abound of campuses hosting training sessions, group meetings, lectures and other programs to effectively cleanse what many campus leaders and left-leaning scholars contend is an unhealthy masculinity in young men today.