Facebook is a mixed bag, much of the time. From time to time, there are awesome announcements about births or engagements, but sometimes there’s just a big old pile of stupid.
For example, take this one I came across this morning.
<sings>Oh holy crap!</sings>
First, the song isn’t directed toward boys in any way, shape, or form. It’s about misbehaving kids, who often cry when you call them on their misbehaving. Every single parent has either seen it, or they’re never around to see it. Period.
Now, let me unpack a few things for you. First, men and emotions.
Yes, men have all the emotions women do. We have sadness, joy, anger, jealousy, disgust…basically, we have the whole case of Inside Out stuck in our heads too. Well, maybe not Bing Bong, but, you know…
Something else men often have are people who are depending on us for emotional support. They need an emotional rock, and that’s what men do.
One thing an emotional rock can’t do is be a blubbering crybaby. The moment a man starts crying while trying to give moral support, the other party tends to feel worse. After all, they dropped all their problems on this man, and they’re not being sensitive to his needs, etc.
Either that or they think he’s a whiny twit and want nothing to do with him. Yes, that happens more often than you think, especially if the guy does the crying thing a lot.
Men feel the emotions, but traditionally, they were selective with who they shared those feelings with. Their best friend, their spouse, maybe their folks if they could, and that was about it. Some argue that it’s macho BS, but it’s about trust.
Some might argue that men don’t share their feelings because they’re not trusting they won’t be mocked, and that may well be part of it. It’s also the fact that my emotions are no one else’s business, and my emotions are a point that might be exploited by an enemy.
Yes, it sounds paranoid, but remember that we are the products of millions of years of evolution, and we’ve only been “civilized” for a few thousand, comparatively. That paranoia has helped tribes grow and kept loved ones safe.
Even now that we’re supposedly civilized (and I’ve mentioned what I think about that term and how it’s used) we still have to deal with enemies. Sure, the stakes are lower, but that may be why anything that can be exploited, will be.
As a result, men get burned for their emotions by the unscrupulous, and it’s not just other men who do the burning.
Contrary to what this meme may claim, it’s not just men–the supposed Patriarchy–that comes down on emotional men, but also women. The female of the species can be especially ruthless when they see someone in their way. Not all women, mind you, but some. Enough so that it’s not just guys exploiting these other guys.
Lastly, let’s talk a bit about “The Patriarchy” for a bit.
Feminists love to decry The Patriarchy as keeping people down. Yes, many even capitalize it like I have. The problem is, it doesn’t exist. There is no Patriarchy.
Patriarchy means “rule by the fathers” and yes, once upon a time, fathers ruled the home. Once upon a time.
Today, every home I know tends to have both parents–assuming both parents are still in the picture–jointly making decisions. Not just in household finances, but also in child rearing.
While I’m sure I can be presented numerous examples where this isn’t the case, there’s not any hard, legitimate data that proves men still rule the home to any significant degree. They just don’t.
Crying about the Patriarchy is nothing more than a way to give modern feminists a boogyman to focus their rage on. It gives them a nebulous concept of “The Man” to fight, an “other” to rage against. This is especially important because women have achieve the long sought after equality they wanted, but too many supposed leaders were invested in the movement, so they had to find new so-called injustices to fight.
As a result, the present The Patriarchy as if it’s some monolithic organization with chapters throughout the world. They treat it like Hydra from Marvel Comics or Spectre from James Bond, an evil organization that either wants to rule the world from behind the scenes or already is.
How powerful are they?
Apparently powerful enough to make a Christmas song espousing their most sacred beliefs and making it a holiday staple.